Well... I tried every combination I can think of with no results.
If the config files are wrong, they say that they are wrong. if they are setup correctly I get the same error
[error] Init: Private key not found
doesn't matter if the certificate has a private key or not as it doesn't apparently get that far to check.
Placing debugging info in the configured .passphrase shows that it never gets that far so it is not even attempting to check the password.
There were other versions of Apache 2 for sparc that had similar problems.
So unless someone figured out some vodoo magic to make it work or has it working on a Sparc with this version... I am assuming it is broken.
Which is too bad as so far everything else I have tried works great.
Looks like to building my own from scratch again unless someone comes up with a solution.