#2002 - No connection could be made because the target machi

[thepulsiphyer]

Hi, I have have this problem with xampp dispite uninstalling and reinstalling it several times, restarting my computer over and over and I even tried the solution suggested here:

I looked in this thread http://community.apachefriends.org/f/viewtopic.php?p=188504&sid=75262a7f215a4ace1e29ce26f60dc037

but I still get this message when I try to access phpmyadmin:
MySQL said:

#2002 - No connection could be made because the target machine actively refused it.

The server is not responding (or the local server's socket is not correctly configured).
Connection for controluser as defined in your configuration failed.

please help